Poker-Girlfriend/Wife
OK boys how do you do it? How do you get to play so much? I have been only able to play two times a week......TOTAL. We have a local game every Wed. and Sun. which I have a perfect attendance at, but my on-line play has been pretty much wiped out by my better half. I do amit I overindulged for a little while.............but do I have to buy flowers every single week to get one or two more games in?
Any suggestions?
Any suggestions?
Comments
There are options though:
1) Get her to play a few hands. Who knows, she maybe better than you think. And when you let them play with you, and you lose to them, somehow, they seem much happier.
2) Allow them to find a hobby they can be obsessed with while you indulge in your obsession. This will free up your time to play, while keeping her busy and out of your way. However, the backlash here is that her hobby could be alot more expensive then yours.
3) Make promises you never intend to keep. Like promising to have her family over for a bbq in the summer. Or maybe you promise to take the trash out every week. Or maybe put the toilet seat down. Just remember, when you do have to cash these promises in, keep a smile on your face. Somehow, the wife always knows when you are faking it.
4) THE BIG 'D'!!! Yea, sounds scary, but a valid option if necessary. Mind you, it may be cheaper to keep her.
All in all, wader, the only thing I can say is WELCOME TO MY WORLD. Good luck. You're going to need it.
It's amazing how quickly they WANT you to play. My wife sheepishly tells me her Christmass budget this year. I ask, where the heck is the money coming from. She then says, what about your poker money? I then say, well I need to play more and we're now both happy.
A laptop with a wireless connection also helps. We sit and watch TV and she gets to watch her programs! Yes, I have to watch ER and Desparate housewives, but hey I get to play poker!!
Cheers
Magi
she happens to find poker incredible fasinating but she has no intrest in playing.
there has even been times that its is her suggestion to play online.
she splits her time bounce back and forth between me playing poker and american idol or whatever reality show happens to be on.
I dont think she minds the money either
when i sit down and look at pocket queens, i get this amazing rush. i dont understand how she coudlnt want that. how on earth coudl she pass up this amazing thing we all love so much?
i ask her if she woudl let e teach her to play, and she says "Oh god no, i HATE gambling"
2 things thoughts pass through my head
1: "Ouch"
2"Hit her.......Punch her in the nose"
the only thing she likes is when i cash in playing poker and take her out.
she'll come around right guys???
laters
johnny
As for poker - she sat in on a friendly game I hosted and took my money from my stack (kinda like what worm did to mikie in AC in rounders) and QUINTUPLED it inside of 3 rounds. She wants to know why I ever lost at the game - it was easy to win. *sigh*
LMAO!
I guess its nice to be a single guy in university so that I have lots of free time during the week that i should be spending on studying haha
My best suggestion would be to echo magi's suggestion to get a wireless laptop hooked up, lets you play and spend time with the better half.
I do everything my self: grocery shoping, cooking, cleaning, laundry, I'm even married to my right hand ( we never argue). Sure it gets lonely sometimes but the nag-free-freedom is worth it.
I'd never date a girl unless she was into gaming & sex. It just wouldn't work out otherwise and I get bored easily.
- 29-ish year old guy...
p.s. on a tangent, watch Owning Mahony ( true story about a Toronto gambler in the 80's ).
1) Playing poker has only cost me a minimum amount of money. Sure I lose sometimes, but overall, I'm raising the bankroll slowly. And it's MINE, all MINE.
2) Wifey, although not truely comfortable with my obsession, allows me to play nag free for up to a few hours a week anyway, just so long as I don't lose the house and kid.
3) The times she does nag excessively, well, I just might deserve it.
4) The standard cost of a divorce is overwhelming, and coupled with the fact that alimony and support would kill my poker playing days forever, it is far better to just give in once in awhile to her.
I say again....IT'S CHEAPER TO KEEP HER!!!!
She cut her teeth on home games and finally felt comfortable enough to play at the casino... now we go every weekend, plus the home games, plus online play... and she's good!!
Last weekend she destroyed the 5-10 game at the local casino... pocketing almost $700 when she left. (That bumped her yearly total ahead of me!!! :frown: ) and she actually won the seat for the $215 Sunday tourney on stars that I will be playing in tomorrow
I may have to accept the fact that there may be a possibility that she perhaps might be a better player than me. (I can't believe I just typed that.... but I think put in enough maybes and perhaps that I can get away with it)
Marriage is a wonderful thing when you have someone who supports what you do. Trick is not to take ALL the time. Even with a hooker, it's still give and take. Most hookers are into gaming and sex......hmmmmm, maybe that's a good path for you.
Cheers
Magi
Why are we listening to you then? Can you please get the expert on the computer? I have some questions for her.
LMAO!!!
I was thinking "strategy gaming", ( not hanging out at the craps table ).
I'm with MickeyHoldem on this one (and my wife doesn't read the forum.). My wife has started to pick up the game, and is actually getting pretty good at it. She was the big winner at our home game last Friday (I was second)!
Hey, what's wrong with that? Serriously, ER might suck but Desparate Housewives is F-ing amazing!!!! I love that show.
As far as your poker to wife ratio...it's a balance you need to find that makes you happy. Once you find it then you can make decisions from there. As for me, I to have to agree with Magi...sharing your winnings is the best way for her at least undstand why you like playing so much. And when she gets something out of it, it can't be all bad!
Jamie.
I like Magi's idea with the wireless connection, I'm going to give it a shot..........wish me luck.
Wader
Of course, this may be flawed thinking ...
I never knew that Poker could be so dirty...
i dont really have an opinion on this so i want some input fomr you guys.
I was saying how I really want my lady to learn poker. then a guy said something very interesting.
"dont you think poker should be part of the 'Boys Night Out?'"
i really had no answer. should i keep poker as my time away fomr jackie?
i want some input here guys
thanks
johnny
Hey, I thought it was an ok show too, till I slapped myself in the face. Mmmmm.....boobs, sexy women and some violence. Alas, there's little skin and little violence, and all we're left with is freaking relationships. It's a ruse to suck men into watching a chick flick. Mmmmmm.....simpsons I say.
Cheers
Magi
Seriously, though, I don't think you can call ANYTHING a 'boy's night out' event anymore. I don't mind going out with the buds and playing poker or going fishing or tossing back some brews, but to say that those things should be only for guys? Naw, the ladies need an outlet too. If they have an interest in it, let them play.
Just don't think you are going to get preferential treatment because your legs are better than the other's at the table. At my table, the only gender is CASH!!!
Also, I would rather lose gracefully to the boys and go home and tell her what a hero I was and it just wasn't meant to be. If she's there watching, she'll know exactly how full of it I am. I like being able to pretend that I am better then her at SOMETHING.
The moral of the story,
Maybe, its OK for wives/girlfriends/fiancies/bedpals NOT to be interested in poker.
Johnnie "poo" H
One of the best Poker quotes i have ever heard.
johnny
In my opinion, just let her know that you're being responsible about it (ie. keep records for proof that you're not losing the house etc.), kick her some cash every once in a while and she'll gradually come around.
(Oh yeah, and if your poker starts costing money, then tell her it's a hobby not a habit!)