DrTyore's dilemmas; WWYD
Hey all
No, these are not personal situations, so don't pull punches. Hypotheticals that I come across, and am curious to see what others think. It does occur to me that the completely biased sampling will not make this as interesting as it should be but....
Dilemma: A woman, early-mid 30's is dating a fella for several weeks/months. Things go south, and they break up. About a month afterwards, she discovers she is pregnant with his child. She decides to keep said baby.
Dilemma: Does she have an obligation to tell Daddy?
What if: - She has had no further contact /relationship with the fella?
- She has?
- Is suitably employed / financially capable
- Is not?
- Other concerns Mark didn't think of?
Provide rationalization for answers please.
Mark
No, these are not personal situations, so don't pull punches. Hypotheticals that I come across, and am curious to see what others think. It does occur to me that the completely biased sampling will not make this as interesting as it should be but....
Dilemma: A woman, early-mid 30's is dating a fella for several weeks/months. Things go south, and they break up. About a month afterwards, she discovers she is pregnant with his child. She decides to keep said baby.
Dilemma: Does she have an obligation to tell Daddy?
What if: - She has had no further contact /relationship with the fella?
- She has?
- Is suitably employed / financially capable
- Is not?
- Other concerns Mark didn't think of?
Provide rationalization for answers please.
Mark
Comments
See bolded above . . .
On a personal note, I had a slight risk of this situation happening to me when I was much younger. A girl I dated for a summer went back to Quebec to begin her University studies. We had an enjoyable time, and were pretty scrupulous about prevention, but there were a couple of slip-ups, and I always wondered if she would have let me know.
she's obligated because it's not only her child, it's his as well. doesn't matter about their past issues, money, etc. he has every right to at the very least know that a child of his will/has been born. if she doesn't want anything to do with him, well fight it out in court then i guess.
All this assuming this guy isn't a "Russell Williams" type character. If thats the case no court in the land would have a problem taken his parental rights.
Also, didn't say anything about morals, I said obligation. I'm okay with bringing up morals though, I'd hate this to just end with "Legally she has no obligation to inform said DNA source"
Mark
is that actually true? i don't know the laws.
I haven't a clue either, but I've never heard of someone being brought up on charges of not informing daddy
Mark
sperm tracking devices?
this is the issue i have. even if she wants to abort i still think she should be obligated to tell the father.
sounds reasonable as far as the law is concerned.
personally though, i don't give a fuck if my child is my own blood or not. if we ever decide to have children (insanely unlikely!!) we'll probably adopt. there are enough children desperate for parents to go around.
Mother F@#$er, I cant remember there names but the was a couple that lived in Quebec that split before the birth of their baby. Mom wanted to have an abortion (not opening that can) and Dad was against it. Think it was in the early 90's. Can't remember how it came out but the courts do tend to favor women in matters of custody and maternal matters. Interesting...does mom legally have to tell the dude? But still I ask this question, how do you look your child in the eyes and say I never told the man who fathered you that I had you. I know moral issue.
AFAIK you can not get pregnant by 'going south'.
Try again.
The point is that the guy did NOT sign up to be a sperm donor and did NOT waive his rights to any potential child's life.
If the child is born the father should know (and pay).
If things were going south....they'd still be together.
tihi...