Todays tip: Wife abuse & playing poker

esool

Does your wife/girlfriend give you abuse everytime you want to play cards? Is she complaining that you play too much poker and do not spend enough time with her?

If she does, here is a tip that'll cool her out and if she doesn't, (yet) this will prevent it from happening..

Give her half of your winnings!
You may think I'm crazy but it makes everything easier down the road.
My wife is very cool and we both have our own interests but it is better to be safe.....
I started giving my wife "some" of the profit after a winning game a few months and I recently bumped it up to half. I figure it this way. I am giving her money as it is anyway since she pays all the bills, so why not a little more. This way we both want me to play (& win) more poker.
I never hear her bitching about my buddies coming over to play, again. Whenever I am playing online she understands I am practicing. When I am making plans to go out to a game she is excited about buying new shoes.

Some of my friends think I am stupid for giving my money away. I don't think they see the big picture and I also know that a lot of them cannot make it to a lot of games for some reason. :?

professor

Chauvanistic but good advice. I'll admit I do likewise. Last week I went runner-runner to a straight all-in against Neil's Ace (King kicker)
and blew Bob off two pair with a ludicrous overbet.
Together with some really good play that the guys will not give me credit for, I ended the night with a good positive score. Took Rachel out to the best restaurant in town the next day, and it was real good. Point is that I want to reinforce the idea that good things happen when I play poker. So far it seems to be working. It's an old-fashioned saying but it sticks in my mind: "Sauce for the
goose is sauce for the gander". And besides it's fun to share the good times and give her something of a stake in my game. Of course, the losing sessions are passed over with a brief "How'd it go
last night?" -- "Not so good". I show her my sheet,
she can see I'm a winning player (slightly above
break-even, to be more precise) and she knows I like to play, so it's good for her to let me play --
ESPECIALLY if it's also good for her when I win,
which is mostly. I totally agree... share the wealth and have her with you not against you.

Hork42

So when you lose, do you guys ask your wives to bankroll you the next time you play?

I've been keeping my pokermoney completely separate from our "boring money"... I have a savings account that I don't use for anything else, so I have my Neteller account linked to it and I just bounce it back and forth between online sites and make withdrawals if I want to play live at a casino.

Oh yeah, and if my total bankroll exceeds specific threshold, my wife and I either spend the excess together, or I get to buy a toy and she gets the same amount to do whatever she wants with it. Keeps us both happy. Keeps me playing regularly, at least

hork.

Dave Scharf

There is a saying in my household: "Poker is not subject to the petty accounting principles of this household."

Seriously, I always reccomend keeping a serperate poker bankroll. Provided you are a winning player it will lift pressure off yourself (you will not fear the loss) and off your spouse.

My wife doesn't ask how much money is in the poker bank account and I don't, usually, tell her. I am, however, fortunate in that both my wife and I enjoy jobs that pay us a decent living. Thus, if there is $20K in my bankroll there is no pressure on me to spend it on someting stupid like food or home renovations.

ScottyZ

Took Rachel out to the best restaurant in town the next day, and it was real good.

Mel's?

ScottyZ

esool

Dave Scharf wrote:

There is a saying in my household: "Poker is not subject to the petty accounting principles of this household."

Seriously, I always reccomend keeping a serperate poker bankroll. Provided you are a winning player it will lift pressure off yourself (you will not fear the loss) and off your spouse.

I agree.
I keep my poker $$ seperate and only use it for playing poker, although I am at 50% of the actual amount. I do not have a problem with this since I keep accurate records of how much money I am really up or down and since I have only started playing on a regular basis recently we are not talking about a lot of money.(yet)
If I do start winning larger amounts I am sure I will need to renegotiate the current agreement.

dvst8r

I like to keep it separate as well. I have a little ceramic cookie jar that says poker on it where I keep my roll. Once it fills up, I consider that excess and use it to buy suff for the woman in my life.

esool

dvst8r wrote:

I have a little ceramic cookie jar that says poker on it where I keep my roll.

No one will ever suspect a thing.

dvst8r

esool wrote:

dvst8r wrote:

I have a little ceramic cookie jar that says poker on it where I keep my roll.

No one will ever suspect a thing.

Jeremy

My wife plays poker also. Having said that, she doesn't play in my "guy's night" poker during the week. She does often play in any other poker game that I play in. When she was learning it seemed that there were NO profits. Everything I won, covered her losses. These days she does a lot better, and we just look at any winnings as income and any losses as the cost of entertainment. It works for us.