Big Mike;399517 wroteTough question, because if the other person has been cheating (a much more serious violation) then the searcher would be justified.
i assume this is the justified reasoning that people use, but you are technically not justified beforehand since you don't know for sure until you do the violating first, at least as far as you know. the dilemma is scary.
Does the answer to this question change if we're talking spouses instead of just bf/gf? The level of trust violation in the search alone one way or the other may end the boyfriend relationship, but probably shouldn't end a marriage (or common law) relationship.
yeah, there may be differences to consider. obviously, if children are involved things must change. i guess if there are a lot of commonly owned things, it might change things as well although i'd be hard pressed to argue that you should stay with someone who cheats on you simply because you own a house together.
Does the expectation of "privacy" have to exist? In a relationship worth keeping, could both people not say - "you can look through my phone/ computer any time you want"? If one person is NOT cool with that, there's where the conversation can start, before anyone has to suspect anyone of anything.
this is a great point because a lot of people feel that a married couple, for example, should not be "keeping secrets" from each other for any reason. yes, one can have their own private time away from the other for whatever reason, but why does one need privacy to surf the internet or text people without their significant other knowing? very fair question and one i'm not sure i can quite answer. i don't think i have anything to hide from my gf and if she asked me if she could look through my phone i'd probably say yes but i think i'd still be annoyed at her asking and wanting to do so.